Resistance is futile. For all the Star Trek fans out there, this phrase sparks memories of The Borg. For the Star Wars fans, resistance is good. Resistance is the good guys fighting for what is right.
For kids who are moving, resistance is often the only way to get their feelings and voices heard. This can make things tough of parents who are juggling the varied and many tasks associated with moving with your children.
The level of resistance to change a person, child or adult, feels is a function of many things; namely temperament, development and experience.
If past experience has shown that a person’s values, challenges and voice will be heard and respected, resistance to change may be minimal and manageable. If past experience leaves one feeling as though they are but a cog in the wheel, resistance can lead to outright rebellion.
As a parent, you are the leader in a multitude of ways. Most importantly during a move, your words and actions set the stage for positive and negative experiences throughout the course of the move. It’s a big responsibility to carry but it is yours nonetheless.
Your own temperament, development and experience color how you deal with the ups and downs during a move; your resistance to change in general. Be aware. Make sure you are taking care of yourself to be at your best. Talk openly and honestly with your children about the move with a balance of realism and “we’ll get through this together” rah-rah.
Resistance is futile. The move is inevitable. Change is hard, but it is good. Embrace the Resistance and lead on.
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