With increasing frequency, experts are recognizing the critical factor resilience plays in positive outcomes for children and families. Resilience, like math, is a skill. Some people seem to just have “it” but it is a skill we can develop, and a skill we can develop in our children.
Part of developing resilience in our children is developing a mindset through which they view the good times and the bad. Three critical factors identified by researchers include caring relationships, high expectations that are positive and opportunities for participation.
It is one of our basic human needs to be a part of a community. Our children’s first community is our family. Creating structure, clear expectations, unconditional love, and appropriate consequences for inappropriate behavior all give our children the safety and security to know they are loved. As our young children move through their developmental stages, we as parents move through developmental stages as well. It is hard to move from having an infant who is completely dependent to a toddler who needs to practice the skills that will lead to independence and resilience. Many opportunities for participation exist within our daily routine from something as simple as choice of which shirt to wear to providing input into the family vacation. Participation doesn’t mean you do it their way. Participation means they get to have a say.
Knowing you are a deeply loved and valued member of your group (family) provides a solid foundation to weather the storms of change and transition, like those our children face when we move.
To read the full article from the Center for Effective Collaboration and Practice on what parents can do to promote resilience, click here.
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