It’s fall and the leaves are beginning to show us their colors, but that doesn’t stop retailers from pushing our thoughts toward Christmas and the Holiday Season. Seems like every year the holiday décor comes out earlier and earlier, forcing our minds to speed up and think about the end of the year and the beginning of the next before we can think about being thankful at Thanksgiving.
When parents with children move, it feels a little like being pushed toward the Holidays before you’ve had a chance to blink. Imagine what kids who are moving feel. Afterall, moving is most likely completely out of their control. One minute it’s status quo and then next minute they’re saying goodbye to all things familiar…or at least it feels that fast to them.
It’s important for parents to slow down long enough to check in frequently with their kids. Some kids will be just fine before, during and immediately after a move. It feels like smooth sailing, but don’t be fooled. The transition will hit them at some point so consistent check ins are a parents’ best tool to mitigate the inevitable surge of emotions that will wash over them.
Slow down and check in time doesn’t just happen. Be intentional. Find a time each day to simply be available. You don’t have to grill your kids about their feelings but being “there” provides opportunity for them to open up. Ask generalbut deceptively specific questions from time to time to let them know you’re interested in sharing. Something like “Who did you have lunch with today?” vs. “How was school today?” can open the door for discussion.
No parent should move without a written game plan to help your children deal with the difficulties they face when moving. For more information about the Moving Families Initative, please visit www.movingfamiliesinitiative.com.