Whether we know it or not, we live our lives in constant transition. Like the seasons, we can see the gentle drift into fall as the leaves change from lush green to the brightly colored autumn hues. Or our transitions can take a more abrupt turn, like the “Polar Vortex” of 2014. How can we plan for these transitions? The truth is sometimes we can (sort of) and sometimes it’s impossible to predict what and where the next transition will be.
Few people would argue that all transition, big and small, it tough…even for those of us who embrace change readily. When transitions through our routines out of whack, what’s our game plan? Focusing on the big picture is no doubt important. Seeing that better future on the horizon brings hope. However, being fully present in the day to day, focusing on daily incremental steps that lead us forward through the fog is most likely the greatest key to smooth transitions.
We’re not talking giant leaps here. When I moved over 1500 miles from home for graduate school, my “giant leap” was when I went an entire week without having to make a single U-turn. When relocating your family, it’s important to have a game plan, not just for the logistics of the move itself, but for the transition. Managing emotions, egos and personalities (both your own as well as your family’s) is critical to minimize the natural challenges that are involved in moving. Transitions are very personal. While one member of the family may be fully adjusted after 3 months, another member of the family may take a full year to transition successfully into the “new normal.” The key for parents is knowing where to find your resources.
No parent should move without a game plan.
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