As adults, we know mistakes are life’s way of teaching us things – about the world and about ourselves. They are opportunities for learning. Our children, without the benefits of hindsight that we enjoy, don’t quite see it that way. Mistakes are bad in their eyes for a variety of reasons.
Building resilience in children is a crucial endeavor as resilient kids are better equipped to bounce back from life’s adversities. Building resilience in children actually starts with us – we can’t teach something we don’t know or don’t have.
Parents bear the brunt of the stress created by moving or relocating with their family. The better able parents can practice resilience, the better able kids are to witness, learn and practice it themselves.
Through the Family Narratives Project, two psychologists from Emory University studied dinnertime conversations of 40 families in the Atlanta area. What they found was a link between the sharing of family stories and resilience. Drs. Robyn Fivush and Marshall Duke discovered that children who were able to connect with a sense of family identity bigger than just themselves help to increase resilience and adjustment in times of transition, change and difficulty. They were able to hear, through these family stories, how their relatives had overcome adversity or learned lessons through difficult experiences.
To read an article written by Dr. Marshall Duke, and see the 10 question “Did You Know” scale developed by the researchers, please click here.
For more information about the Moving Families Initiative®, please visit www.movingfamiliesinitiative.com.
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